The girls and I often go to IHOP for breakfast on Sunday mornings. When I'm not with my IHOP crew, I partake in philosophical debates with my long-time girlfriend from the 3rd Grade. This week's topic was the inspiration I needed to come back to the world of blogging....so here I am....with my over-opinionated ramblings...
Just like we were teens, 80% of our conversation was dominated by the subject of men. As we discussed guys that we dumped for one reason or another...the conversation went in a terribly funny direction..."the girls they end up with"...which led me to a question that I've been asking myself for years....
Why are so many men attracted to the damsel in distress? You know the kind.... she can't pay her bills, her car is always breaking down, a check bounced in her account and now she doesn't have her rent money, she has a stressed relationship with her nuclear family, her baby's daddy is a nut ...she's overly sensitive and seems to have the worse luck on the face of this earth...I could go on and on ....this damsel seems to have one trouble after another--with little hope for pleasant times ahead...until....she meets him---your ex (or current) boyfriend who (before thinking) snaps on his cape and spends all his money and time trying to save her...and they live happily ever after...or do they?
Some would argue that the "damsel in distress" appeals to some men because they give them an opportunity to feel needed and heroic. Others might say that men are socialized to believe that it is their responsibility to take care of women; So, naturally, when one comes along who needs help--they help...almost like one would an elderly lady crossing a busy street. But of course, I think it's something else...so here goes...
The Immaculate Conception After careful consideration of the factors involved in the development of a CAPTAIN, It has been our experience that those who fall victim to the never-ending misfortune of a damsel usually comes from strong beginnings; Having had a number of strong women role-models, they grow up to love and care for women who are equally strong; Unfortunately, in my opinion, the strong women they have chosen sometimes tend to have qualities that may leave them feeling both useless and average; ....and then a damsel comes along and the opportunity for greatness is available. (yep...that's it...doesn't get any deeper than that)
My friend and I laughed for hours on the phone about various things...but THIS topic brought us aching bellies and silenced hollars with tear drops in the corners of our eyes. Bless the hearts of those men who put on capes thoughtlessly! For me and my good friend know, that when times are hard...the CAPTAIN will need saving...and the damsel won't be capable of doing it....
Counselor tip of the day: Put on your thinking cap before snapping on your cape--and save yourself!
12 comments:
She ain't talking about me.
If anybody is saving anybody around here, it's her saving me from DEBT.
Thank you honey....... ;)
One of my best friends is a damsel in distress. She goes from put together and on top of the world to homeless on the beach. There is always someone there to pick up the pieces. All the chaos makes me tired. Although, sometimes, I wish that I could just drop everything and free fall for a bit.
Oh man, who can take all that damn drama and expect to be happy in the long run anyway? Guys with good hearts end up suffering with his damsel...that's if they don't get away in time. There's an old saying Malo Tio Mateo used to say, "Give a man a fish- he eats for a day, give him a pole and he eats for days." or something like that...
kiyotoe...you could say that twice and still not know the half of it!
I'm saving you from all types of stuff over here...
messin' with you...I should save myself some time and just go to sleep with my cape on... :)
Mist1,
I wish I could free fall too! Unfortunately, everything I know and love would fall to pieces...
...Maybe one day I'll get a chance to lie back and wait for someone to save me from the troubles of my life...
Until then,guess I'll go to work and school and make it happen on my own.
Life Sincerely Sucks,
The Counselor
Oh well.
The counselor
Well at the risk of being laughed at for hours... In a way I am a damsel in distress. And although Mike would love to see me healed, he also feels good that he can be my rock when I'm in need of one.
This post made me sad.
Sorry i have just lurked at the mo, but will be back with something more meaningful than 'Hello, nice to have you back' which it is.
I could argue it goes the other way around too. I'm sad to admit that most of the men I dated when I was younger needed saving whether financially or emotionally.
Please don't hold this against me. ;)
well dang it all! They must have all rode those white horses right by me! lol
Ah Counselor,
The truth of those words will last beyond the ages. I feel you on the whole subject. It is hilarious, I am watching this unfold with my ex as we speak and it is great. Sorry for the absence and thank you for the hit up on my blog.
the 5280 Princess,
Ms. Denva
skittles: Sorry this post made you sad. I hope you feel better...
claire: thanks for nudging me out of my unplanned break...
pink: Thank you for bringing that up! I think I might agree that it's more taxing to save a man...especially when his wounds are emotional...it's a full-time job.
Deslily: Don't worry...they passed you on purpose because you can read and write. Today's man isn't interested in that! :)
Ms. Denva: "The 5280 Princess"?? Sounds like a latin street gang??!! What does it all mean?? :)
AHAHAHA,
Sooo not a latin street gang. 5280 is the elevation of Denver, Colorado. We are the Mile High City, one mile above sea level. So I figure that's pretty high and princess get a throne, so I am the 5280 Princess a mile high above the rest. Ahhhh. But I will have to come up with another when I move to Hotlanta :-). LOL
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